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May 15, 2009
I just watched your two videos, the morning after, and the test. Being poz since 1987, I found the videos to be awesome. I was infected by the first guy that I ever had sex with, and since then, he has unfortunately passed away. I'm 45, on no meds, and in perfect health, after 22 years of seeing friends die.I've been one of the lucky few that has been fortunate enought opt out on meds and still be undetectable with a CD4 presently of 864. Thanks for creating awareness for the public, and send this to everyone that you know (and don't know). Videos like this are a gret way to get the message out in today's society when our youth thing that HIV is a thing of the past.
I just watched your two videos, the morning after, and the test. Being poz since 1987, I found the videos to be awesome. I was infected by the first guy that I ever had sex with, and since then, he has unfortunately passed away. I'm 45, on no meds, and in perfect health, after 22 years of seeing friends die.I've been one of the lucky few that has been fortunate enought opt out on meds and still be undetectable with a CD4 presently of 864. Thanks for creating awareness for the public, and send this to everyone that you know (and don't know). Videos like this are a gret way to get the message out in today's society when our youth thing that HIV is a thing of the past.
May 4, 2009
Id like to let you know that your not making people aware of the reality, most people who are positive dont get someone negative coming back that easily to them after a scare, nore do the ones honest about thier hiv status get people dating them that easily i think the video should be re-done.
Id like to let you know that your not making people aware of the reality, most people who are positive dont get someone negative coming back that easily to them after a scare, nore do the ones honest about thier hiv status get people dating them that easily i think the video should be re-done.
March 13, 2009
Thank you for this movie. Everyone tells me that I am silly for always asking my sex partners if they are negative. Some say, if you are safe, it doesn't matter and shouldn't be discussed. I disagree. It's about being communicative and connecting in my book - even if it's for one night. Otherwise it might as well just be us at 17 in the closet and in a dark sex hut somewhere, too embarassed and cared to speak - just suck it or touch it and cum and leave. NO wonder we all still are enticed by anonymous sex. It's what was burned into our brains through shame as excitement. At the Miami Winter party...another suggestion was to ask a POZ person, if they were on meds, and if so what their viral loads were. Apparently someone who is poz but on meds and not showing viral loads may be safer to be with than a guy who thinks they're negative but really doesn't know and has recently sero-converte! d (high viral loads) Having come out in 1993 I am always worried in the back of my mind about HIV and catching it. Get tested about once every 6-8mos. My "Straight" doc thinks I'm paranoid getting tested that often, given that I feel that I have always been safe. But with STDs besides HIV, I feel it's prudent. Wnat to know more so I can relax more when having sex. How do you relax, when someone tells you they are negative, and your mind thinks - well act like they are positive? What if they don't know? How do you relax when someone tells you they are positive but on Meds and have virtually no viral load - and you kiss and don't do the things that you do with those who tell you they're neg (Oral without a condom - no cum) but still wonder..can I get it? And worry about it after, because 16 years ago when you came out and before two long term relationships - there was no cure..and still uncertainty about it? How can you be sure that they are neg when they just asked if they could swallow your cum.! ..so hot yes...but safe? They say it is, but is it? Thank you ManhuntCares for this great web-site...I realize I need more information even in my 40s...we all do. This video reminds me that I am not alone. Always Ask. Always discuss. Never stay in your head alone. We did that for too many years in the closet. We are used to it. The drinks just were the way to cope ..and now the drugs...kick the habit and find the people who will help you communicate through teh difficult conversations... right?
Thank you for this movie. Everyone tells me that I am silly for always asking my sex partners if they are negative. Some say, if you are safe, it doesn't matter and shouldn't be discussed. I disagree. It's about being communicative and connecting in my book - even if it's for one night. Otherwise it might as well just be us at 17 in the closet and in a dark sex hut somewhere, too embarassed and cared to speak - just suck it or touch it and cum and leave. NO wonder we all still are enticed by anonymous sex. It's what was burned into our brains through shame as excitement. At the Miami Winter party...another suggestion was to ask a POZ person, if they were on meds, and if so what their viral loads were. Apparently someone who is poz but on meds and not showing viral loads may be safer to be with than a guy who thinks they're negative but really doesn't know and has recently sero-converte! d (high viral loads) Having come out in 1993 I am always worried in the back of my mind about HIV and catching it. Get tested about once every 6-8mos. My "Straight" doc thinks I'm paranoid getting tested that often, given that I feel that I have always been safe. But with STDs besides HIV, I feel it's prudent. Wnat to know more so I can relax more when having sex. How do you relax, when someone tells you they are negative, and your mind thinks - well act like they are positive? What if they don't know? How do you relax when someone tells you they are positive but on Meds and have virtually no viral load - and you kiss and don't do the things that you do with those who tell you they're neg (Oral without a condom - no cum) but still wonder..can I get it? And worry about it after, because 16 years ago when you came out and before two long term relationships - there was no cure..and still uncertainty about it? How can you be sure that they are neg when they just asked if they could swallow your cum.! ..so hot yes...but safe? They say it is, but is it? Thank you ManhuntCares for this great web-site...I realize I need more information even in my 40s...we all do. This video reminds me that I am not alone. Always Ask. Always discuss. Never stay in your head alone. We did that for too many years in the closet. We are used to it. The drinks just were the way to cope ..and now the drugs...kick the habit and find the people who will help you communicate through teh difficult conversations... right?
February 27, 2009
Hi, I would first of all congratulate your work on HIV and think that you are doing it for good. But for people like me who live with HIV, and who has worked in the field for many years trying not to only to preach prevention, but also to drive away stigma, I think your little movie lost it in many points. It is a great movie in some ways but the message cannot be complete without driving away stigma for those living with HIV because this is one of the greatest problem we face when it comes to stigma. Your movie seems to be saying in some way that people should avoid sex with HIV positive people - after all, that message becomes vivid when the title is taken into consideration. I think you should do a wider consultation and see where we are now. The main issue now is to balance the message. Responsibility lies with both negative and positive persons engaging in sex but HIV is NOT a big deal because sex with an HIV positive person is not a death sentence. I think you can make it less difficult for both parties especially by revising the way the conversation went between Josh and the other couple because this is where you lost the plot. Thank you for contributing; and please, contribute fine.
Hi, I would first of all congratulate your work on HIV and think that you are doing it for good. But for people like me who live with HIV, and who has worked in the field for many years trying not to only to preach prevention, but also to drive away stigma, I think your little movie lost it in many points. It is a great movie in some ways but the message cannot be complete without driving away stigma for those living with HIV because this is one of the greatest problem we face when it comes to stigma. Your movie seems to be saying in some way that people should avoid sex with HIV positive people - after all, that message becomes vivid when the title is taken into consideration. I think you should do a wider consultation and see where we are now. The main issue now is to balance the message. Responsibility lies with both negative and positive persons engaging in sex but HIV is NOT a big deal because sex with an HIV positive person is not a death sentence. I think you can make it less difficult for both parties especially by revising the way the conversation went between Josh and the other couple because this is where you lost the plot. Thank you for contributing; and please, contribute fine.
January 29, 2009
I only wish a dear friend of mine had seen these videos before making certain decisions in life. Thank you, and God bless.
I only wish a dear friend of mine had seen these videos before making certain decisions in life. Thank you, and God bless.
December 8, 2008
Thanks for the movies, The Morning After and The Test. They were great. I hope they get people thinking and talking. Keep up the good works!
Thanks for the movies, The Morning After and The Test. They were great. I hope they get people thinking and talking. Keep up the good works!
December 7, 2008
The USA teaches gay men HOW to spread HIV by not teaching that all choices between consenting adults needs to be respected,by not teaching that gay sex is NOT all about anal intercourse,The USA only teaches "the proper use of a condon",be sure to use a condom, "here are free condoms,go and have fun"which teaches that gay sex is all about anal intercourse,nothing else is taught.We never hear gay men remind each other to remember that HIV will ALWAYS be preventable.So why is the most risky sexual activity the most popular activity ?Gays in the USA don't promote respect for diversity,(as in the leather dress codes)WE need to show and teach the many forms of safer sex, is hot sex for many and can be for many more.Consider new ideas about human sexuality.
The USA teaches gay men HOW to spread HIV by not teaching that all choices between consenting adults needs to be respected,by not teaching that gay sex is NOT all about anal intercourse,The USA only teaches "the proper use of a condon",be sure to use a condom, "here are free condoms,go and have fun"which teaches that gay sex is all about anal intercourse,nothing else is taught.We never hear gay men remind each other to remember that HIV will ALWAYS be preventable.So why is the most risky sexual activity the most popular activity ?Gays in the USA don't promote respect for diversity,(as in the leather dress codes)WE need to show and teach the many forms of safer sex, is hot sex for many and can be for many more.Consider new ideas about human sexuality.
December 6, 2008
"The Test." Good video. should emphasize STD testing just as much as HIV. Hepatitis can often kill you faster than HIV.
"The Test." Good video. should emphasize STD testing just as much as HIV. Hepatitis can often kill you faster than HIV.
December 6, 2008
Thanks for the video, it was good and truthfull. Yes, HIV responsibility really is a 2-way street. We have no right to blaim someone if we did not ask first. It takes 2 to tango! It could have more empathetic and less "preaching."
Thanks for the video, it was good and truthfull. Yes, HIV responsibility really is a 2-way street. We have no right to blaim someone if we did not ask first. It takes 2 to tango! It could have more empathetic and less "preaching."
December 5, 2008
If you really want people to start practicing safe sex, why is no one providing any actual facts? Where is this simple statement: "no matter what your partner does or doesn't say about their status, the odds of a sexually active man seeking sex with another man being positive are... ????. Why is that number, the most important fact, not available anywhere in the "education" material. Why are we still perpetuating the fantasy that "talking about your partner's status" will protect anyone? As far as I can tell from the few stats I can find, the majority of Poz guys still don't know that they are. And based on my own experience as a poz guy who has attended some poz chat groups, hardly anyone that does know they are poz discloses, and many actively lie to avoid rejection. Finally the dumbest thing about this video is that since this poz guy is on meds, he is far less likely to transmit the disease than a poz guy who doesn't know he is poz and is untreated. How do you expect guys to volunteer to be tested when finding out you are poz is only a life sentence of false stigma to be endlessly rejected, instead of making it known a poz guy on meds is safer than a poz guy who goes untested?
If you really want people to start practicing safe sex, why is no one providing any actual facts? Where is this simple statement: "no matter what your partner does or doesn't say about their status, the odds of a sexually active man seeking sex with another man being positive are... ????. Why is that number, the most important fact, not available anywhere in the "education" material. Why are we still perpetuating the fantasy that "talking about your partner's status" will protect anyone? As far as I can tell from the few stats I can find, the majority of Poz guys still don't know that they are. And based on my own experience as a poz guy who has attended some poz chat groups, hardly anyone that does know they are poz discloses, and many actively lie to avoid rejection. Finally the dumbest thing about this video is that since this poz guy is on meds, he is far less likely to transmit the disease than a poz guy who doesn't know he is poz and is untreated. How do you expect guys to volunteer to be tested when finding out you are poz is only a life sentence of false stigma to be endlessly rejected, instead of making it known a poz guy on meds is safer than a poz guy who goes untested?
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The Morning After Josh is a 26-year-old gay man in New York City. This is his story.
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The Test To test or not to test? Find out what Josh decides.
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Talking about HIV Excepts from Meth, Todd Ahlberg's (2005) documentary SEE THE VIDEO FOR GAY MEN |
